Love knows no age. This simple statement has changed so many lives! Why would anyone ever decide otherwise? Well, people from all over the world have quite different ideas related to age gaps between lovers and the appropriate age to marry and have children. Since our attention is focused today on men over 50, we are going to talk mostly about them.
There’s a popular opinion that the older man gets, the more attractive he becomes. Clearly, what actually makes men attractive is intelligence and experience, so the aforementioned opinion totally makes sense. However, the society (no matter how tolerant it has recently become) often isn’t willing to understand why a fifty-year-old man looks for love. Modern society, westerners, in particular, have a great variety of misconceptions, and this one is one of the best examples. That is why you should not pay much attention to what people have to say (but it does not mean that you should shut the mouths of your family and friends; people who care about you might appear to be right).
Apart from social treatment and opinions, there are also many unwritten rules of dating for men over 50. Here are some of them:
1. Know what you want. When you look for a woman, you should understand what kind of relationships you are interested in. It will define the type of female you should seek. If you want to have children, you should better seek a younger and healthier woman. Why? Because 50-something women have a great risk of miscarriage; likewise, it’s quite hard for such female to give birth to a healthy child. As well, if you get too old for taking care of children (which can itself be quite an assignment at times), your younger significant other will take this responsibility and devote all her time to kids while you will provide her with everything she and children might need. If you are not interested and marriage, you may find a same-age partner for sex and spending time together. In fact, a 50-something woman would understand your needs and interests much better than a young girl. Basically, your requirements define the type of relationships and females you should shift your attention to.
2. Don’t rush into things. We often assume that adolescents are always in a hurry because they want to get everything from life and don’t miss a single opportunity in life. Well, it’s rather understandable that older people rush into things for the same reason. Nonetheless, in the case of a young guy, such rush would look all right while an older man in such hurry seems awkward. As an experienced person, you should know your worth. Therefore, you definitely shouldn’t fall for every young and merely attractive woman. Likewise, you should not start relationships too soon. At any age, you should sufficiently learn your prospective lover before getting committed. In the end, why would you devote your time and efforts to someone who wouldn’t even appreciate it?
3. Think about yourself. When we are young, we often do whatever we want without thinking about tomorrows or assessing how our actions will affect our future. However, as you get older, your health and life conditions become essential to ensure your comfortable being. Unfortunately, keeping track of your health become exceedingly important after your 50s. As well, you should not devote your time and life to someone who would make you nervous and stressed all the time. People can at times be quite selfish and self-absorbed (even if all other qualities traits that your partner possesses are attractive). Therefore, you should choose someone who would make your life comfortable instead of making it a living hell. Of course, you should never fall for gold-diggers. However beautiful and sexually attractive such females might seem, they always come accompanied by destruction and disasters. Thinking about your significant other is important; thinking about yourself is even more important in your 50s.
Based on the peculiarities of dating in your 50s, we pointed out some basic don’ts and dos, which include:
Don’t let your new relationships consume all your time and energy. It might be harmful to your health and life overall.
Do check your partner’s intentions. She might seem absolutely sincere and accurate in her sayings. But don’t be blinded and try to understand if this woman actually loves you or not.
Don’t underestimate the force of romance. Older men often assume that picking up a woman is not that important when both of you are mature. Any woman in her late 40s wants (and needs!) to be loved even more than 20-something girls. Taking her out for a dinner ONCE does not make you two a legitimate couple. Pay her some attention, make her feel young and sexy again.
Do look for females who match you intellectually. You indeed don’t just look for physical intercourse between you and your potential girlfriend. Being with a woman who can keep the conversation going and can help you in any possible situation is more likely to make you happy.
Don’t stop taking care of your body and overall physical appearance. Clearly, your skin and hair change, but your body structure and muscles can be 100% fit at any age. Of course, it requires some extra effort but it pays off in so many ways (including your outer handsomeness and the state of your health).
Do go for something new. Being conservative makes sense at any age, especially in your 50s. Nonetheless, it does not mean that you should cut yourself off from everything new. Learn how to use modern smartphones at their full capacity, sign up for cooking classes, travel and read. Be open-minded!
Nevertheless, the most important thing about dating for men in their 50s is that searching for love at this age is ABSOLUTELY AGE. If you are for any reason feel lonely and want to find a loving and caring woman to spend time and get older with, go for it. Don’t listen to anyone! Your life is in your full control, and if you feel like having a relationship – just do it. Love is definitely one of the very few phenomena that make our life beautiful and complete.