People of a particular nation have their own system of values. Some countries are mainly money- or success-oriented, while others prioritize nonmaterial values. Russians are very family oriented, the main priority for them is their families. Even when they get married and create their own families, they don’t alienate from their parents and kin. Russian families are close-knit because they cherish family ties. This can be explained by the fact that Russian culture is largely based on the traditions. Children respect their parents and take care of them when they become independent. A woman ties the knot with the man she loves and she wants to live a happy and long life with him. She respects him and dedicates her life to him and their children. Russian women are loyal and devoted wives because they realize that nothing in their lives is more important than their families.
Loyal Russian Wives: Examples from History
Today, when Russians want to describe an extremely loyal wife they call that woman a “Decembrist’s wife”. Very often, this phrase is used with a shade of irony but the history behind this expression is really impressive and it proves the unbelievable loyalty of Russian women. First of all, who are those Decembrists? In December 1825, a group of Russian army officers and aristocrats organized a revolt against the czar. The revolt was suppressed and the participants (Decembrists) were arrested and later sent into exile to Siberia. Their wives were offered to divorce them or be pronounced as widows. 11 wives showed their boundless loyalty to their husbands and decided to go to Siberia together with them. It was a brave act, indeed. Those women and men were aristocrats, they had servants, so they were not used to heavy manual work and bad conditions. In exile, men had to work in mines from 6 a.m. till 11 p.m. put into chains. Their wives were allowed to visit them twice a week. Only 30 years later Decembrists were amnestied and could return to the European part of Russia. Their wives are considered to be heroic women in Russia. There is even a poem by Nikolai Nekrasov that glorifies the heroic deed of Decembrists’ wives. One of the wives was stopped by a general who tried to persuade her not to follow her husband, “You’re following him like a slave”. And her reply was, “I’m not a slave! I’m a woman – a wife!” This historical example speaks volumes about how loyal Russian women are.
What is the secret of Russian loyalty? Probably, it is in the way Russian women love. They love unconditionally and self-forgetfully – this is how a mysterious Russian soul loves. It’s usually called “blind love” – a woman loves her man and her feelings for him are so strong that she ignores his faults and sees only his virtues. She forgives him a lot of things because she values their relationship. When a Russian woman falls in love with a man, she gives him all her heart. His age, financial status, or appearance is of no consequence to her as long as he gives her the same amount of love and makes her happy. She wants to be with him through thick and thin and she will. She will be there for him when the spirits are low; she’ll also be glad to share all his pleasant moments. Very often, Russian men start taking their wives’ attitude to them for granted. They don’t appreciate that loyalty and self-sacrifice. In the long run, when a woman wakes up and realizes that her man doesn’t appreciate her, she may get disillusioned and feel betrayed or even start looking for the man who’ll cherish her feelings.
It’s Better to Fix That Throw Away
Russian girls were told in their childhood that one day they would meet a good guy, fall in love with him, get married, and live together till the last breath. Many Russian women have good examples of their grandparents who lived more than 50 years together. The problem of today’s couples is that they would rather break up than make up. A Russian woman will do her best to save her marriage. She’ll turn a blind eye to some minor misdeeds and will forgive many things for the sake of their relationship. Her loyalty here borders on patience and infinite forgiveness. She stays loyal to the oath she gave when she tied the knot with her loved one.
Loyalty to the Family
Russian women understand the word family not only as he and she but he, she, and their kids. It explains their desire to become mothers and give their love to their children. Russian mothers deserve immense respect. Their maternal love is powerful and all-embracing. Moreover, they manage to be the best mothers for their kids and often do it simultaneously with their studies or career. However, if a Russian woman feels that her family, that is her husbands and children, lack her attention, she’ll choose in favor of her family and take a pause in her career just to spend more time with people who really need her.